SF Bay Area Dating Dynamics
due to scheduling conflicts...
Due to Carlos' speaking and appearance
schedule, the November Seminar has been postponed until further notice. Please
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This seminar will put YOU in the driver's
seat with women - and your life.
Details (Hotel, clubs, etc.) are currently
being arranged, but here's information from the last seminar. If you want
a seat at this event, Read on...
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Here's the agenda:
NIGHT 1 - FRIDAY AFTERNOON/EVENING
- Alpha Jump Start
We'll meet up at the hotel in Las Vegas in the lobby to hold some
preliminary discussion around the art of approach. Carlos
will share some of his insights in a friendly, relaxed environment. Then
we'll jump right into approaching and opening sets right off the bat in some
of the classiest and exciting clubs in Las Vegas.
The first night will contain a few surprises to get you started on the right
foot with your Alpha mindset.
We may meet earlier and do some personal training that will give you a little
Alpha Boost to your confidence...
DAY 1 - SATURDAY
- Alpha Immersion!
We're going to cover all areas of your inner game on the first full day
And this won't be some boring lecture, either. Carlos has kept the size
of the seminar small enough to provide INDIVIDUAL feedback and work on your
sticking points. Everything from body language to tonality and conversation
We'll have motivation, information, exercises, tools, Q&A, and all kinds
of interactive work to completely immerse you in the mindset of an Alpha
We're going to cover:
- Change - the art of transformation
- Approach - Storytelling, verbal aikido, proxemics, kino
- Science of Alpha Behavior
- Inner vs. Outer game
- Confidence building
- Controlling your mind
- Managing fear and anxiety
- Body Language
- Understanding women
- Your personal sticking points
The content will remain flexible to ensure that we address YOUR sticking
points and not just lecture you. You're going to be interacting with Carlos
and other instructors on the areas that are important to YOU.
NIGHT 2 - SATURDAY
- Alpha Fun
We're going out to select Las Vegas venues to interact and exercise
the new mindset you've cultivated.
You'll experience approaches first-hand in an intimate setting in several
of Las Vegas' finest nightclubs. We'll experiment with opening sets,
group dynamics, raising attraction and comfort levels, and closing.
Carlos and the instructors will be with you every step of the way for some
great field work. You'll see how the mechanics of approach work in real life,
from opening to storytelling, to kino, to closing for the phone number.
DAY 2 - SUNDAY (ending 3:00 PM)
- Alpha Man Power
It's time to recap the previous night and review the previous night, breaking
down the individual performance successes.
We'll finish with implementing the Success Habits of Alpha Men so that your
new Alpha Frame is locked in tight. You'll come away with the tools and mechanisms
to motivate yourself for the goals you want to accomplish, not just with
women, but in life.
We're going to cover:
- Social dynamics
- Post-game - Day 2 and beyond
- Success habits
- The Renaissance Alpha Man
Get ready for a near-life experience...!
There's no substitute for
the REAL thing.
Carlos be reviewing each applicant for the programs
for suitability - You must be at least 21 years of age,
be a reasonably driven individual (capable of self-development and growth)
as well as carry a positive attitude.
can't find this kind of quality and value in life-coaching expertise ANYWHERE.
And, since there was an accidental leak of the discounted
rate, this seminar will be discounted for ALL particpants. (Future seminars
will be closer to the industry standard $1200)
To reserve your seat
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Make your reservations NOW, while there are still seats available.
Hotel reservations should be made at the Atrium Suites Hotel
(across from the Hard Rock)
Details will be posted here as we finalize the seminar extras...
HENRIK from the August 2006 Seminar in Las Vegas:
"The first word that came to my mind when walking out of the seminar was: Unbelivable. From
a pure value perspective, this seminar provided the best material for the
best price...it far exceeded my expectations. Regardless of where you
are in your growth to becoming an Alpha Male, Carlos covers the necessary
topics that are essential to your success.
The opportunity to approach Playboy Playmates and Lingerie Models, get their
feedback and then use their advice in the hottest clubs in Vegas is Priceless. Honestly,
if you can approach a Playmate, you can approach anyone.
The format of classroom learning during the day and then applying those principles
in the field at night with Carlos as your wingman is ideal. He will literally
approach a set with you, observe your interaction and give you with the necessary
feedback to help you with any sticking point that you may have. He provides
real world examples of everything that he teaches so you gain a better understanding
of each topic. Carlos is the consummate professional and he takes the time
to help you individually regardless of your ability.
Consider this an essentail investment that will change your life forever. I
certainly don't know of any other investment that can prvide that type of return."
KIRIN on the March 2006 Seminar in San Francisco:
Carlos Xuma’s “Alpha Man Immersion” weekend intensive
Having recently attended Carlos Xuma’s “Alpha Man Immersion” weekend
intensive in San Francisco two weeks ago, it honestly took me this long to
get around to writing the report because there was SO much information presented
and material learned that I really needed the time to assimilate.
currently at a point in my game where I’m very good at ramping up attraction
once it has been established, very good at creating relationships out of connections,
very good at giving a woman what makes her really purr - once the initial contact
has been established. But the initial approach, particularly in noisy/crowded environments
like bars and clubs, has been for most of my dating life out of reach, placing
me in that dreaded position of having to pick from “those who pick me” rather
than picking from what I find attractive in the first place.
I made a goal for myself to this year really focus on getting over this hurdle,
and one of the steps towards that goal that I decided to take was to enroll
in some form of “field workshop” with an expert PUA. I first heard
about Carlos through a posting on cliffslist and the seminar was located in San
Francisco (40 minutes North of me) so I figured, “Why the hell not?”
contacted Carlos, went through the interview process (he doesn’t let just
anyone into the seminars) and once being approved ordered his “Secrets
of the Alpha-Man” multi-media course, which contains 6 CD’s of
audio materials, interviews and activities as well as a huge 400 page manual,
which I printed out and have been carrying around ever since.
I think that the thing that strikes me about Carlos’ materials over those
provided by other PUAs is that there is more of a sense of method and professionalism
to what he presents. It is clear that he reads HUGE amounts of material
and then distills it all down and encapsulates it into efficient and very digestible
Rather than ramble on and on about this or that in some abstract
way, Carlos might talk for 5-10 minutes on one subject, then jump to another,
and then to another, all of them being insightful and interesting. He does
a lot of this type of work, publishing a monthly “Coaching” CD
as well as weekly podcasts and periodic teleconferences.
What works so well about this approach is that it allows men of all different
skill levels to come in wherever they are in their game and pick up what
they need. So going to the weekend intensive was kind of like having a firehose
of information blown in your face for 72 hours.
I picked up so much data
that it took a week or so to really let it all settle in… and while I have
to admit that while my confidence level was actually a tad lower going out than
coming in (got my ass kicked a couple of times out in the field) it is now much
higher than were I started and I’m now suddenly juggling 3 women in my
life that were not there (at least in the same way) a couple of weeks ago. Not
to mention the other new contacts that I made on the weekend itself. When
it rains it pours…
The weekend consisted of 2 main activities… day long presentations of the
copious material that Carlos had prepared for us (with working lunches and lots
of breaks) and sarging expeditions in the evenings that ran till 1:00 AM or so.
were 12 of us in the workshop, from all over the country, with varying levels
of experience ranging from those who were just starting to work with approach
to one who goes out 6 nights a week (he takes off Saturdays because he says
night” and women in the clubs are either with a date or pissed that they’re
not with the date they wanted… and therefore not worth the trouble)
One of the things that struck me about the overall presentation of the workshop
is that no matter where we were, the location was beautiful and sophisticated. We
started in a private “Penthouse room” at a club called “Swig” where
we could all have a drink and get familiar with each other before moving out
into the scene, looking down on it as well.
Carlos had two others working
with him in the workshop and in the field which was very cool because each
of the three had very different energy and brought something different to
the experience. Carlos
was the “host”, the party maker… kind of like a Hugh Hefner
character but without all the pretentiousness. Travis, his wing, had a
very different energy. Laid back and cool but with a tinge of mischievousness,
a nice contrast. And then there was CJ Chandler, a pivot, who was street
smart and savvy but with a very friendly and open energy. She was like
the very cool big sister that you never had who knew everything about attracting
women and wanted to teach you all the tricks.
I’m not going to go into long blow by blow descriptions of everything that
we did in the field, it would take too much space. (and yes it was awesome, yes
I got my first numbers ever in the field and yes I got my ass kicked a few times
and Carlos was right there to pick things up for me and get me back out there
But what I will cover briefly is the “new” concepts
that I took away from the seminar which I’d never been exposed to prior. My
own nuggets of “gold” as it were. These are all concepts that
I didn’t really know or understand before the seminar which I now see
1) Opening a set, to “open”, they were “open” - My first
set right out of the box was perhaps my most successful (which kinda sucks because
it was hard to match the exuberance of that initial peak experience) It
consisted of a set of very open, physically affectionate and playful women (5
or 6) sitting by a fireplace. The set had already been “opened” by
Travis before I arrived and he invited me in. Standing behind the group
I took off my long coat and proceeded to sit directly in the middle of them in
front of the fireplace making jokes about stealing their fire… As I sat
down they immediately started petting me… one with her hand stroking my
back another stroking my head scarf (my head is shaved) and another with pressing
her leg up against mine. I zeroed in on a juicy blond and was petting and
talking to her about my art and totally had command of the entire group the instant
I sat down. It was amazing.
Remember that that portion of the game is the part that I’m good at… once
attraction has been established… so it was a total kick to just be dropped
into the situation and be rocking the way I was. I conversed a bit, got
a couple of numbers and moved on to the next set. But the next day I was
thinking on it and it almost seemed TOO easy… and I suspected that the
group was a plant just to get my confidence up. I checked with Travis on
it and he explained the concept of “opening a set” to me… that
by the time I got there the set, and the women, were already open, friendly and
interested. In this case my wing (or pivot) went in ahead of time and did
the hard part for me. The rest was easy… very cool. And I know
they weren’t plants because I’m still in touch with some of the
members of that set at this point.
2) Another concept that I got to play with, that kind of leverages off the
previous one of “opening” is wingmen and pivots. Over the course of
the weekend I got the chance to work with several wings, including Travis and
Carlos as well as 3 or 4 men in the group and it was amazing to notice the dynamics
that show up when working that way.
As with opening sets, (as opposed to
singles) having another person there on your side to work with really makes
things easier, less charged and more fun. And when your “Wing” is
a woman (a Pivot) I like that even more… and we had CJ working pivot
at the workshop with us as well.
There was one case where I went in with my wing and we were hitting two very
cute girls who were snuggled up on the couch. I opened the set with my “Shy100” spiel
(which is really designed to work solo) but it totally fell naturally into a
great interaction me talking to my target my wing talking to the other. But
the amazing thing was that after 5 or 10 minutes of chatting when their HUSBANDS
showed up I looked over to my wing not sure what the “protocol was” and
he was like “Hey man… nice to meet you. How’s it going?” And
I just followed his lead as if talking to these men’s wives was the most
normal thing in the world and while my Wind talked up the dudes I talked up the
Very interesting. My wing and I just totally held our power
and Alpha status without the slightest trace of defensiveness and the entire
group went along with it. And after another 10 minutes or so when we
ejected Carlos was there to tell us all the things we did right and how the
girls body language really showed attraction and connection with us. Again,
3) The last thing that I came into that was really profound was the concept
of “Proxemics” or
the science of the placement of bodies (people) in relation to each other (rather
than Kino or body language which is all I’ve ever focused on before.)
most interesting experience I had with this was on the last night at the
last club where there was this ADORABLE California blond that had been holding
court at the bar all night long. I’d wanted to approach her but every time
I looked there were one, two or three tall good-looking studs talking her up. I
was trying to figure out if she was “with” any of them but never
could… and felt intimidated at trying. Well, at the end of the evening
I was tired, ready to leave and on my way out and I figured… “Fuck
it, NOW. Nothing to loose and I won’t have to hang around for
So while she was talking to these two hunks I slid in behind her, leaned
my arm on the bar behind her almost as if she were my date and I had my arm
around her shoulders and did the “Shy100” into her ear over her shoulder. The
most amazing thing happened… as soon as I started talking to her (displaying
very confident body language and proximity, something that comes easy to me)
she turned her attention to me and the other men just pulled their tails between
their legs and slunk off. It was amazing… 5 seconds into the approach
and I’d cleared the floor.
I’d heard that could happen but
never experienced it. Well, the interaction with her was very sweet, fun
and amazing to watch as the body language escalated between us… it was
almost like a dance… the way her body moved against mine as I teased and
played with her, her back arching almost like a cat begging to be stroked. All
without touching (but in VERY close proximity, inches.) It was amazing. Could
have gotten her number had I gone in looking for it in the first place, but I
did get a hug and a kiss from her which was plenty for me at the time. It
was enough to see what I can do when I really hold my Alpha Power as Carlos
had been coaching us all weekend to do.
So all in all, it was an awesome weekend. Not easy, and not always fun,
but an amazing growth experience. I’m looking forward to working
with this group again as well as following up on all the connections I made
during the weekend, both inside and outside the group.
San Francisco, CA
I wanted to take some time to give you many compliments about the seminar last
weekend. My experience at the seminar was impacting. I realize
there are many improvements we can all make, through other methods, but after
the seminar it made me a believer of how seeing and applying methods can escalate
your understanding of it all.
One of the many moments of clarity came from
the actual material you explained on day one. From your slideshow and
demonstrations about Alpha mindsets, I quickly played out different scenarios
from my past that clearly exhibited beta man behavior.
how you relive your memories in an instant from a few examples. I went
in thinking that my sticking point was more on the approach, but throughout
the seminar, I realized that my approach didn’t need as much addressing
as my mindset through the rapport phase. I only realized it when we
were out on the night and my fellow peers were having trouble approaching,
and I could quickly think about something and apply it to my target.
moment of clarity came when I was confronted two separate times during an
interaction with females from an AMOG and I could quickly rationalize a way
of defusing what could be a confrontation of superiority. I still ask
myself, how was it that I did that? Well,
my answer lies in the fact that I never thought of myself as inferior to
the other alpha male of the group. In fact, I told myself that I was
whatever the confrontation, that mindset could be a powerful way to think
when anybody is a situation like that. A great “AHA” moment
during day one of the seminar was when [you] gave a demonstration about body
language that shows interest from a woman. It was great to know some
indirect ways women sometimes show interest without us men knowing it.
to add to that, I witnessed a defensive gesture from a woman during an interaction
between my buddy Jim and a target that displayed in real time what [you
were] talking about.
overall needs from the seminar were met because I saw you interacting with
certain ladies that demonstrated a relaxed person interacting with a group. As
I saw your interaction it made me think that it was a good goal to someday
see that in myself. I also came to see that this is a long term process
that I will need to be constantly working on.
One relief is that most
of the guys you interact with during the seminar are in your same shoes and
it only encourages you to strive for betterment in yourself and in your peer
fact that all the guys in the seminar are learning and facing challenges
like me, give me a great focus to try to work on this every day until I meet
the person in my life that is going to make everything worth while. So
overall, the workshop helped me understand that it is a lifelong learning
Surely, I will have to devote more time to figure out what my actual
sticking points are and work on developing more of my social skills.
are a great role model for all of us RAFC’s, thanks for your help and
support and as for me, I will just keep on trying whatever I can to become
a better person.
for the forums, the CD you gave us, the slides etc, your seminar helpers
(Travis, CJ), your thorough programs and the constant help you give us to
hopefully give us enough guns and ammunition to succeed in this great thing
that we call the “Game.”
A.C. - California
Every participant in the seminar was there to improve himself regardless
of his level of "game." There was a spirit of encouragement and
brotherhood among the participants. Everyone in the seminar was very friendly.
Carlos [was] very professional and knew his stuff. Yet, he was very friendly
and down to earth. You felt like you could ask him any questions and he
would have the answer for you... I loved the Q&A times--which Carlos
left plenty of time for. Carlos' answers were insightful and obviously
came from lots of firsthand experience.
The profound theories were mixed in with live field practices to reinforce
the learning. The seminar covered lots of the fundamentals on how to become
an Alpha Man; laying a great foundation for perfecting one's skills and personal
style in relating to women in the future.
... I love how C.J. and Carlos did the body language demonstration for
I really enjoy the take-home gift of ... photos and seminar materials
to keep myself improving.
Carlos took care of all of us when he took us
out to a nice dinner and paid for everything. We even had a champaign toast! I
was very impressed by and appreciated his attention to details...
J. - California
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